I’m forever sharing these children, whom I want to be fully invested in, because I do want to be fully invested in them.
That’s already something that scares me, in terms of those power dynamics.
How do I come in as a first-time parent to a situation when these children already have both parents?
That was the narrative I’d read when I was younger, because that was the only path afforded to a lot of people.“That being said, the practical reality of having children is all the more difficult now. That was something that was very important for me to do.
And it depends now whether my future partner has a uterus — whether it’s a cis woman or a trans man — and we use it."The other possibilities are that my partner and I will adopt children one day together, or that I may end up being a stepmother to children who he or she brings to the relationship.
As much as I love sharing my dating stories, there are a lot of experiences that I haven't had.